What is Touching Dialogue

By David Kirk-Campbell

Touching Dialogue is a body centered psychotherapy.
TD is a touch so sensitive and intentioned that this touch communicates (dialogues) with the cellular memory and longing from the client’s childhood that continues to pulsate in their adult body. The sensitive, intentioned touch of Touching Dialogue invites the cellular memory to change from contraction to expansion, from fear and hesitation to pride and go-for-it, from ‘no’ to ‘yes’.

Touching Dialogue is providing a psychological space safe enough for a person to build a bridge between their conscious wish, yearning for change and their unconscious inhibiting/permission system. It is using touch to access and transform the unconscious the way most talking therapies use talk.

TD begins with an agreement (a psychotherapy contract) with the client about their wants, longings and goals. Then follows the touching dialogue work on the table using a very gentle, contact full touch. This touch responds to the clients inner longing for touch recognitioin, often carried over from the client’s childhood. This touch recognition is a catalyst for the client to access the inner motivational matrix embedded in the cells of the body so that there is more energy and inner permission for the client to live their life they way they really want to.

Here is an example. A TD client tells the TD guide/therapist how they want to change their life- for example, ‘I really want to tell my lover what I want and don’t like’, or ‘I run my life from my mind, I want to connect to my body so I can use body sensations and feelings to contribute to my decision process’ or ‘I want to say what I mean and spend less time thinking about what others expect me to say’. Touching Dialogue uses a very gentle touch, sensitive to the client’s inner pulse, responsive to the client’s physical skin deep yearning for recognition so that the client’s inner, mostly unaware, motivational source woven into the fabric of the skin, muscles, nerves and bones gradually is changed from an inhibiting filter of no’s, don’t, won’t into a flow of permission- ‘yes, do, will’. Once this ‘yes, do, will’ energy is available the client has the responsibility to focus or harness it toward the contract they have made as to how they specifically want to change their life. For example, to tell my lover what I really want and do not like.

During sessions there is talking about what a client experiences in their body awareness. From time to time the TD therapist puts into words the intention that is flowing through their touch.

In the 1980’s, I developed TD based on my own findings about the human need for touching, the feed back I received from clients as to what caused change and what wasted time, and my own conviction that through direct contact with the body the change process of psychotherapy could be faster and more effective. Now, the writings of Sue Gerhardt, Why Love Matters, and Bruce Lipton, The Biology of Belief, are documenting extensive scientific research that validates the founding principles of Touching Dialogue. Gerhardt’s book is translated into Danish with the title Kærlighed gør en forskel, Lipton’s book is translated into Danish with the title Intelligente celler.